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Everything and everyone are to him mere instruments, extensions, objects unconditionally and uncomplainingly available in his pursuit of narcissistic gratification. This makes the narcissist perniciously exploitative. He uses, abuses, devalues, and discards even his nearest and dearest in the most chilling manner.
Punishment, trusts the narcissist, is for ordinary people, where no great loss to humanity is involved. Narcissists are possessed of inordinate abilities to charm, to convince, to seduce, and to persuade. Many of them are gifted orators and intellectually endowed. Many of them work in in politics, the media, fashion, show business, the arts, medicine, or business, and serve as religious leaders.
The narcissist is utility- driven, obsessed with his overwhelming need to reduce his anxiety and regulate his labile sense of self-worth by securing a constant supply of his drug attention. American executives acted without compunction when they raided their employees' pension funds as did Robert Maxwell a generation earlier in Britain.
If he can secure attention by being the big bad wolf the narcissist unhesitatingly transforms himself into one. Lord Archer, for instance, seems to be positively basking in the media circus provoked by his prison diaries. The narcissist does not victimise, plunder, terrorise and abuse others in a cold, calculating manner. He does so offhandedly, as a manifestation of his genuine character.
Yet, deep inside, the narcissist is painfully aware of his addiction to others their attention, admiration, applause, and affirmation. He despises himself for being thus dependent. He hates people the same way a drug addict hates his pusher.
The narcissist, very much the infantile outcome of stunted personal development, engages in magical thinking. He feels omnipotent, that there is nothing he couldn't do or achieve if only he sets his mind to it. He feels omniscient he rarely admits to ignorance and regards his intuitions and intellect as founts of objective data. Narcissists are "inspired" and they despise hamstrung technocrats
When required to pay for his misdeeds, the narcissist is always disdainful and bitter and feels misunderstood by his inferiors. When social cues and norms encourage such behavior rather than inhibit it in other words, when such behavior elicits abundant narcissistic supply the pattern is reinforced and become entrenched and rigid.
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